Couples Counseling

Couples-CounselingRelationship Renewal Through Couples Counseling

Are you struggling to feel close with your significant other? Has time changed your relationship? Has there been a severe break in trust that you can’t seem to mend? Perhaps you are engaging in the same arguments over and over again. You may no longer be working together as a team, or you may be placing a lot of value on being right rather than really hearing each other. Do you feel like you and your partner are leading separate lives, just pretending that everything is okay? Do you wish you could find a way to reconnect with your partner, feel supported and understood, and bring joy and laughter back into your relationship?

Relationships are in a constant flux as each person making up that partnership navigates through life. As times change for each of you, you can find it more difficult to relate to each other than it once was. You may want to change and grow together, but feel at a loss, not knowing how to actually make that happen.

There are lots of things that can change a relationship. Have you and your partner struggled with infidelity or loss of love? Maybe one or both of you have had trouble battling depression or a dependence on substances. Possibly, as your relationship has aged, you have found yourselves having issues being intimate in the same way that you once were able to.

Or perhaps you and your partner have been so child-focused through the youth and adolescence of your children that you find the two of you are struggling to find your own relationship with each other past the children. You may feel “stuck” and want to move forward, finding yourselves unable to do so.

These are just some of the many factors that can contribute to an unwanted shift in a relationship away from what initially brought you together as a couple.

My Approach to Couples Counseling

All these changes can result in a feeling of being unable to relate and communicate with your partner the way you once used to. Making the decision to seek outside assistance in navigating the new space of your relationship with your significant other does not mean admitting defeat. It means quite the opposite, in fact.

Seeking help through couples counseling means that the relationship is important enough to figure out how to grow as a couple.

I have worked with many couples who were on the verge of break-up for a variety of reasons. However, through work and cooperation from both partners, I have been able to help them salvage the relationship.

I believe that conflict does not have to be the end of a relationship. In fact, I recognize that conflict is normal and the ability to constructively and creatively argue from time to time is necessary for the life of the relationship. Many couples simply haven’t been given the appropriate emotional and communicative tools to work and grow as a couple. That’s where I can help.

To facilitate this, I use a positivity approach during couples counseling to construct a plan for moving forward. My approach is very humanistic-oriented, meaning I strongly believe developing the individual emotional life is important in feeling connected to your partner. Through getting to know the individuals that make up the couple, I am able to help give them the tools to work at a mutually satisfying emotional and physical relationship.

But you may still have concerns about couples counseling…

I want to start couples counseling, but my significant other doesn’t think counseling works. 

Though couples counseling works best with both partners present, working on yourself is still a valuable endeavor. Seeking help for yourself from someone outside your relationship can be beneficial to the relationship as a whole. And, oftentimes when your partner sees how committed you are to resolving problems they commit to the counseling process after all.

My significant other wants me to go to couples counseling, but I don’t think I need it.

If you personally don’t feel that you need counseling, but your partner has expressed a strong desire to seek it, your presence is still very important. I strongly encourage both partners to be present so that I can better understand each side of the relationship.

Even if you personally don’t feel that you need counseling, your partner will benefit from your input and insight. You can help me understand your partner in more depth than a counseling session with just a single person.

Free consultation

Do you think couples counseling could help but still find yourself hesitant to schedule an appointment? This is completely understandable. Making the decision to open up your relationship to outside help is a big decision, which means that finding a therapist who is a good fit for you and your partner is important for the process to work.

This is why I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation with no obligation. This consultation allows you to present some of your personal concerns or roadblocks and get a rough idea of how I would approach your specific situation.

I look forward to hearing from you when you are ready to begin the healing process.